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Saturday, June 11, 2011

Words of Endearment

WORDS ... it is said, have launched ships, made and brought down nations and have inspired all, from kings to the common man.  They are the currency of communication.  As the old saw says, "Clothes make the man.", similarly words make the character of any person.  For how we speak is more important that what we speak. Because what we speak is constructed of the How.

In my life words are a most important commodity. They are, after all one part of my biotope of creativity. I do enjoy creating imagery with the combination of words.  Thus, there are sources of words which are especially important ... even dear to me.

My family is a source of such words.  My wife is my dearest friend and most invested colleague in life. She and I also share in the delights of being permanent partners in - post-parenting - for a fabulously wonderful young man.  His offspring are the combination of his efforts and the woman whom he married and has become his best friend and colleague and our daughter. From their committed friendship have sprung two (thus far) children; the apples of all our eyes.  Those two darling offspring are our most treasured treasures.  They are Brooklyn and Wyatt.

BBW or, Before Brooklyn 'n Wyatt, there were many words, along with their connected moments, for which my wife and I consider as most treasured moments.  Such things as the first 'I love you'; and the "Yes!" to an engagement request; and the "I do." promissory of a life-long commitment of love and devotion.  Then as parents, the first words of our son, "Mommy", "Daddy". To a lessor extent for us - but monumental to both sets for grandparents - hearing his first terms of 'grand' applied to them and the follow-up whimsies he sent forth.  As he grew and expressed his mind; even in the times of disagreement; we saw in his words, the character of the man he would become.  The vocabulary he grew up with was not tainted in words that bring embarrassment and shame. But, rather with words that uplift, encourage and speak to a higher focus.  He has, in life thus far, mirrored the pictures painted by those words.  The pleasure we as parents derive from this, flows in an unspoken, yet not wordless, vocabulary of love and respect.  For a parent, it truly - doesn't get any better than this!
Over the past 8 1/2 years - the time since Brooklyn came on the scene - my wife and I have been adding an entire lexicon of words we use to bring smiles, tears, warm-fuzzies, and moments of pure joy to our lives. Then 2 1/2 years later, our family increased by one, when Master Wyatt came along.  He has been a remarkably wonderful addition; both to life and the now expanding B&W Lexicon.

Utterly astounding, it is, how a simple phrase such as, "That's not right!"; or a word like "Grandpa?"; can usher in both a concrete point of how to live a treasured life, or just warm the cockles of the heart. All the while bringing a smile - that heartily competes with the brightest of sunrises - on our faces.  But it happens: daily!

Our B & W Lexicon of Endearing Words and Phrases is filling up with such treasures as:
  • "Oh Grandpa..."
  • "One time..."
  • "I do!"
  • "Will it hurt you?"
  • "She's over me."
  • "I don't like cauliflower!"
  • "Keep it in your mind."
  • "Are you pulling my leg?"
  • "It's just my 'magination'."

With many more to come.

To you, the reader, there is little emotion stirred from the list above - unless you have a direct connection of your own.  For me however, it's a world of metaphor. Each word and phrase telling an entire story.  One which each time I see - I am taken back-in-time to the moment the memory was made.  This is the power of words.  Ad a series of musical notes to the mix and the memory is encased in neural concrete.

The name of our granddaughter, Brooklyn, for me conjures an entire book; literally. The story came to mind the minute I heard what her name would be. It has nothing to do with an urban landscape, nor the bridge so associated.
The scenic memory takes root in the first five letters of her beautiful name: BROOK.  As an avid fly-fisher, I am also a lover of the colder water fish known to the fraternity of trout lovers as Salvelinus fontinalis. Or more commonly known as the Brook Trout. Not actually a trout, but a member of the char family, the brook trout is to the cold water fishes, what the wood duck is to waterfowl: shear unadulterated beauty.  A magnificent array of color and beauty. My granddaughter is well named.

Within a few days of Brooklyn's birth I began fantasizing non-stop about a time in the not-too-distant future, when she would begin asking me to take her fishing; to teach her to fly-fish; and the days upon days of joy and excitement the two of us would share in pursuit of the finer, more artistic part of the wonderful event called fly-fishing.

My fantasy melded into the story of a little girl's journey along a stream in which a little brook trout emerges from it's egg sack learning to fend for itself; growing into a young parr and making it's way in the watery world of the stream, regularly visited by the little girl and her family. 

The opening scene has the little girl riding in her car seat, along the winding road that parallels the mountain stream in which the little brook trout has just emerged.  As the family car passes over the bridge spanning the soon-to-be-home of the tiny trout, the little girl; unable yet to speak or know the world about her, sees the colors of the newly emerged leaves and the light as it gently filters down from the blue sky above and she smiles.  She has no idea why, but a feeling of comfort, warmth, belonging and home come over her.  She's far too young to understand any of this beyond the sense of comfort and it makes her smile.  Interestingly, this same feeling washes over her every time their family car passes over this bridge. No other. Just this bridge.

Three years later as she and her daddy walk along the stream, just down from the bridge, the fly her daddy had just dropped into a feeding lane vanishes. A few minutes later, the little girl and the now 3 year old brook trout meet.  Immediately she falls in love with the brook trout; she wants to take it home. Her daddy tells her about the value of being selective and letting the trout go back to the water and live; to make more trout and maybe she'll visit again by taking another of daddy's flies. The trout, knowing nothing of love, but a lot about fear of predators, does not - when looking at the little human - feel the fear she has of the warm thing gripping her.  The moment is brief, but forever in the minds of both entities.

The story continues to tell the interaction of the brook trout and the little girl, culminating in the day, 3 years later, when the little girl catches the little brook trout and the little girl must make her first life and death decision.  You will have to read the book (and I will have to finish writing it) to find out the answer. 

All of this washed over me -again and again - like an ocean wave.  Each time bringing in more information, idea and energy. Somehow, I just knew Brooklyn would become my fishing companion.  And now in her 8th year, she is beginning to make a move in that direction. 

I was greeted with a phone call a few weeks back with a request from Miss Brooklyn. "Grandpa?" she asked. 

"Yes, Miss Brooklyn, what can I do for my precious little lady?"

"Grandpa, would you take me fly-fishing?" 

At that moment, somewhere in the realms of my heaven, angelic choirs lit off into a mighty Reggae line and the steel
drums echoed among the mountain tops!  Music to my ears!  Bingo! I'd hit the lottery!!  All of this and a thousand times more.

"Why, sure thing princess. When do we go?", I was able to gasp out.

"Oh, Grandpa, it's still too cold. But I want to go as soon as we can.", she intoned.  

"We'll do it fist time we have opportunity. Maybe when you and Wyatt come stay with us this summer. How about that?", I added.

"Oh, can't we do it sooner? I really want to go fly-fishing.", she pleaded unnecessarily; I was totally sold!

"We will go fly-fishing at the very first opportunity and we'll do it as often as we can and you want to continue. How's that?", I committed.

"OK. That sounds great. I hope it's really soon.", she said with great plans and hope.

"Me, too, sweetie. Me too!", I said concretely.

Unlike the verse that greeted me, when I would take the final drink from my favorite Donald Duck whistle cup as a kid, "All Gone".  This story, instead winds into another word phrase of memorable importance.  I hear the musical refrain, the song which ushered my wife and I from our marriage ceremony, courtesy of Karen and Richard Carpenter, and remember - "We've Only Just Begun".

Oh! Have we ever ...just begun.


Sunday, August 24, 2008

Me and Joe Went Fishing

"Me and Joe went fishing on Wednesday night. Where we went ....",

OK, I can hear the groans already. "NOT another so-called, 'Me and Joe' story." Well, I'm with you on that. I've had enough of those old brag-pole, exploit riddled tales, too. But this is NOT just another, 'Me and Joe'. This is a real life, honest-to-goodness, Me (Les Booth) and Joe (Joe Cornwall) fishing story. It's not what you'd expect. Really!

If you're looking for photos of big, football shaped bucket-mouth bass, or platter sized bluegill, or rod straining trout, then you will be disappointed. This is not a story about 'CATCHING' or 'SPECIES PORN'. This is a story about two guys who have known each other for several years in the online world of email, web sites, blogs and podcasts, finally getting to meet, face-to-face, in their favorite venue: fly-fishing.

We both belong to the Outdoor Writers Association of America and dance among the digital wave of New Media. But until Wednesday night, 20 August 2008, we'd never met in person.

Earlier this spring, I had a hit on a real fishing treat, come in from a contact, made over a year earlier. This was to be a real, rare treat, too. A mid-state Ohio group, specializing in breeding huge trout and placing them into recovered natural streams in central Ohio, offered me and up to three friends, a 'taste of trout fishing Nirvana'. I jumped on it. Inviting my best fishing buddy on the blue orb, Ed Hauser, my son and the one fellow from the 'Ohio' area whom I just knew would really appreciate such a rare experience: Joe Cornwall. Well, as luck would have it, Mother Nature was destined to rain on our parade. She decided to dump an unseasonably high rain event right over the 'Nirvana' and our plans were dashed. We patiently requested a 'rain check' and were granted it by the owners. When that happens, I will - well... maybe ... tell you all about it. But once again Joe and I were to remain 'virtual' acquaintances only.

Not quite a month later, I invited Joe to come to my neighborhood to fish my 'Home Waters' for my personal favorite game fish, the explosive and every entertaining, Smallmouth bass. That also happens to be Joe's favorite piscatorial delight, as well. Though the hallowed waters have held all summer, work, events and well -- life, conspired against our futile attempts in setting and consummating a successful outing. Thus, the "Home Waters" venture remains a future event.

Then three weeks ago, I receive an email from Joe saying he would be passing through Lafayette on his way from a business meeting in Chicago, on his way to another one the next day in Evansville. He wanted to know if he chose to stay in Lafayette, would I be interested in getting together and could I possibly have a bass pond where we could share a proper introduction: fishing. I fired back an immediate response, that I sure would and definitely could make that happen. All he'd need to do was tell me WHERE and WHEN to meet him and I'd be there with pontoons in tow and a fabulous water where we could go!

The die was cast. The day awaited. And the fishing gods smiled. So did me and Joe.

Me and Joe were going fishing!

It really was just that funny!
It really was just that funny!

The weather last Wednesday was perfect. The temps were in the mid 70s, humidity in the low 40's and only an occasional breeze chopped the waters. Normally, I don't mind that chop, but for that evening I desired a still-as-glass water for the potential of explosive top water bass action. But, life experiences educate us to realize all requests posited to the divine - whether provided or not, are not necessarily what we truly need. Such was the case for this evening. For the waters were like glass and the top water action was full of potential - it was not found. However, something far greater came to hand.

We had just missed the 'bite' forecast by the Solar/Lunar Tables; having ended just 2 hours before we could get on the water. For some that would just plain terminate any reason for being on the water. What's the point? The likelihood of a 'real catch' was lost; might as well pull stakes and wait for the next window. Right?

I had long ago proven that such natural rhythms are good to pay attention to; they really do work. Equally, I have learned it is wise to neither dump all your eggs into one basket or believe in only a single line of thinking. When interacting with the flow of nature, flexibility is the KEY to a lasting and continual level of success. Have all the information you can have, but be willing to adjust on the fly (yes, all puns are willfully and gratuitously accepted!)

We missed it. But, we still caught fish. This is neither a chock up for or against the block of fishermen who either swear by, or swear at the 'tables'. Really, there isn't a need to waste your time in trying to be in either camp... if you're going fishing. For you see there in lies the understanding of the KEY to flexibility.

There is a huge difference between FISHING and CATCHING.



'Cause you see... Me and Joe had come to fish.
  • Fishing has no agenda beyond the moment. Catching demands outcomes.
  • Fishing doesn't equate success with quantity. Catching doesn't exist without it.
  • Fishing is ecumenical on all levels of human experience. Catching is purely denominational.
  • Fishing allows - even welcomes and seeks - serendipity. Catching fears and loathes it; demanding engineering precision.
  • Fishing is fun. Catching is work.
  • Fishing is open to anyone. Catching is a closed fraternity.

Me and Joe were fishing.

Me and Joe weren't looking for food. And that is the difference. Had we needed food, we would have gone fishing with catching as the objective. Catching fish was never our objective.


Getting to know each other over a good catch-basin of protein rich water, while amply plying the combined techniques of fly-casting, fly selection and observation, interwoven with a sublime mix of individual solitude and in-depth conversation on a wide ranging array of topics, was the objective. And I must admit, we hit the nail, squarely on the head! Bingo! Success on the highest level possible. We accomplished what we set out to do ... and then some.

Our fishing including not only seeking serendipitous encounters of an ichthyologic kind, but we were fishing the personal waters of our own lives. Joe and I both - heartily agreed - that the last line from, A River Runs Through It, were not only Norman Maclean's most powerful, but range true to the very core of our nature. We ARE both, "...haunted by waters." Thus, for us, there is no better place to consummate a personal relationship than in the company of WATER. And fishing is our common choice of baptism.

Thus, Me and Joe fished.

Now, to be fully functional, every outing should also contain a bit of 'learning something you did not know before' and we added that to the retinue as well. However, it was not something to deal with the water, nor fishing. It was about my home area. Restaurants to be exact.


Even though Lafayette is home to a major Big Ten University, a lively and growing urban area, has more eating establishments that really is healthy and - is my 'home ground' - of sorts - I was totally taken aback with finding that nearly all restaurants in the area rolled up their sidewalks at 10PM!

WHAT !!! ? !!!

Hadn't they read the memo that our area of Indiana had been speed-jumped into the modern age two years earlier and we were now on Daylight Savings time? Therefore, people are up and moving about later? And we like to eat later, too! Well, I guess not.

Me and Joe got fished.

We were hungry and not ready to lay our conversation aside. So after visiting likely watering holes for edible food and drink, we were forced to take refuge at the local B-Dub ... yeah, we didn't know what they meant either! - but that was the local vernacular for the local establishment of the national chain, BW3 (Buffalo Wings 3). The beer as it turned out, was excellent, the hot-sauce though, left me wishing for a Cajun cook and the inside noise drove us out into a most pleasant evening air. Well, 2 out of 3 wasn't bad. But we both agreed, it would be another mistake that would land us in a BDub anytime soon.

Oh well. Live and learn. Besides ... we didn't get together to eat.

Me and Joe went fishing and will go fishing again. Soon.


-----Epilogue -----



Joe Cornwall fishing Fairfield Lake #1 w/ Les Booth
Joe Cornwall fishing Fairfield Lake #1
w/ Les Booth"

Joe Cornwall publishes a top-class web site full of interesting, useful and timely content called, Fly-Fish Ohio. Joe is an outstanding fly-tier and has a real talent for thoroughly engaging the student in both technique and conversation. His video segments on fly-tying are not to be passed up. As well, his podcasts are truly among the top 10 of all podcasts on the Internet. Give Joe's website a visit and take in his offerings. You will not be disappointed.

He is also the author of one of the best books on warmwater fly-fishing I've ever read (Fly Fishing Warm Water Rivers) you can find more information on the book and how to purchase it on his web site, too.